In the last article, we talked about how true intimacy involves knowing and being known in all your imperfection.
For a married couple, romance and sexuality help create this safety and unity.
Whether or not ‘sexting’ is cheating is a really tricky one to call. Change in sleep patterns – Chat rooms and online meeting places heat up late at night, so the cheating partner tends to stay up later and later to be part of the action.
Of course, it depends on so many things – the relationship you are in, how long you have been together, how open your relationship is, how often your partner was ‘sexting’ behind your back, and to whom, and so on. Often, the partner suddenly begins coming to bed in the early-morning hours, may leap out of bed earlier and bolt to his smartphone for a pre-work text or email. A demand for privacy – If someone begins cheating on their spouse, whether online or in real life, they will often go to great lengths to hide the truth from their wife or husband.
From the starting place of false intimacy, Satan has led many a couple into emotional affairs, adultery or other dark places they never imagined.
Through counseling, recovery groups/literature and immersing ourselves in the Bible, I'm grateful to say that Dave and I have learned to replace false intimacy with Biblical intimacy in our marriage.
Bottom line: False intimacy is based on an illusion woven by the father of lies himself.
The spouse may use the tablet only in a secluded corner of a locked study, the spouse may change the password, or cloak all his or her online activities in secrecy.
I would express disappointment, but then, fearing abandonment, would seek to quickly "restore" him, often by giving myself sexually. Well-meaning brothers did everything from reading Dave Scripture on repentance to threatening church discipline.
Little did we know that we were both caught in a web first spun in the Garden of Eden.
Weiner’s repeated behaviors might be a sign of a sexual addiction, which might be why his wife is staying by his side. He left Congress in disgrace after being pressured to step down due to a sexting scandal in 2011.
When he announced a similar transgression on Tuesday in the middle of his New York City mayoral bid, many came to question Weiner’s impulse control.