Dating out of pity
He is already showing that he is unwilling to “forsake all others,” and that he is not living a pure lifestyle.
Paul writes in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one transgress and wrong [defraud] his brother in this manner, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things…” God’s will is for your sanctification, which includes purity. If it is not, then he is a defrauder, who loves himself more than you or God. How does your date cope when things do not go as planned?
You have to be married to this person till death do you part, and you can choose whether your marriage will help you to grow in serving another believer, or will pull you down and bring you much sorrow.
Choose wisely, and trust God’s sovereignty if that man has not come along yet.
Spouse abuse by an angry man does not usually randomly begin fifteen years into a marriage. Abuse is not only physical- it can also be emotional. If he is more concerned with worldly pleasure than pleasing God in being an honorable and responsible man, this is not the kind of man who will rightly point his family toward Christ-likeness. The Bible has a name for the guy who has the Peter-Pan syndrome: he is called “the sluggard.” Proverbs mentions him several times, including in Proverbs 6:9-11, which states, “How long will you lie there, O sluggard? A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest, and poverty will come upon you like a robber, and want like an armed man.” What is this man’s work ethic? Is he unhealthily dependent on his friends or family?
If a man is addicted to pornography, he is already committing adultery/fornication in his heart, even before you tie the knot.I am 25 years old and have never been in a serious relationship.I am a very attractive girl and I tend to meet guys easily and go on dates mostly every weekend. You’re catered to so frequently that you may lack some kindness, empathy or social grace.My problem is that it never leads to anything more than that. You may be insecure, but people have trouble believing it. When you’re constantly put on a pedestal, it’s hard to be in sync with “normal” people. That last one is just my observation about beautiful people and doesn’t necessarily apply to you.I don’t know what I’m doing wrong, but the date will go really well and things tend to either move really slow, I won’t hear from them after our date for a week or so, or not at all. You can come across as aloof even if you’re just shy. You’re given things by men for no reason (Free dinners! This is the same thing that afflicts celebrities, by the way. But the point is, by being singled out for being attractive, you’re never, ever considered “normal”…